I didn't hit my goal!

This is a story of why not hitting my goal is a celebration. 

In the months of April and early May, I was in a course to help me learn how to find new clients through referrals. I had a goal of 20 free sessions over 45 days. 

Some of you are now part of my circle because of those referrals and I'm so delighted. And to those of you who referred friends, I am so grateful for your referrals and introductions. 

I didn’t make my goal of 20 free sessions. Not even half.

So why am I celebrating? I stepped out of my comfort zone. I put myself out there and learned so much about myself during this process. I have a better idea of the clients I want to work with. I also got clear on the messages I want my business to send out into the world.

It felt like stepping off a cliff into a wild unknown. I knew I had so much support from family and I met great people along the way.

In the past I would have beat myself for not achieving the goal I set. I would have criticized myself for setting my goal too high, or for even trying when I had such a high potential of "failing." 

Where I now know I got stuck was that either set extremely high expectations of myself or I set them too low. Only to be disappointed in myself either way.

How often do you let your fear of failing stop you from even trying? Or do you set your goals low enough that they are easily attainable? Guilty!  

In Human Design, there are several areas where fears show up in your chart. These fears can get in the way of your taking risks or trusting yourself in your decisions. 

A lot of times knowing what these fears are and when they show up is a big part of your growth.  Acknowledging "Oh yes, that fear is showing up" and knowing that they can show up at odd times when you're feeling stressed or in a similar situation. 

I would encourage you the next time you feel you would rather not try something new, ask yourself..."is this fear talking or am I trying this because I think I should?" 

Fear is a message, it may be what's keeping you safe or your mind may be falling into the fear loop of "what if I fail?" What if you decide this one time you acknowledge the fear, notice if it's rational or irrational, and then decide to try anyway. 

Celebrate the small successes even if it falls short of your goal! 

One small step forward is still one step ahead of where you were. And if you're three steps behind, take what you've learned and use that as momentum to adjust and try again to move you forward. 

During my four-session Human Design readings, we discuss your decision making authority, so you can establish that deep trust in yourself. We look at the fears that show up in your chart during the later sessions.

You'll feel more confident and you'll find yourself celebrating the progress you've made even if you don't reach the goal you set for yourself. 

And maybe reaching the goal wasn’t the point. Maybe, just maybe, the experience of “failing” to meet your goal was what you needed to learn, and in the end, you’re grateful you didn’t meet that goal.