Have you paused recently to celebrate how far you’ve come?

In western society, we're taught to have big dreams or big goals. We're raised to always be looking forward to the next big thing. Yet we forget to turn around and look how far we've come.

How often do you turn around when you've taken a walk or a hike to notice how far you've come?

Most of my clients are Manifesting Generators or Generators and their strategy is "To Respond."

Responding can be so simple and one of the most challenging aspects to grasp. When clients begin to work with their designs, it starts to make more sense.

Holy moly, these past few weeks have been a true transition. Have you been feeling the shift in the air?

We moved through a lunar eclipse on September 17 and a solar eclipse on October 2.

Eclipse season is an interesting time when things get revealed – what we need to let go of, what’s outdated, and how we can clear space for the new.

Just like in western astrology, Human Design has its own set of transits. These are moments when the sun, moon and planets move through different gates in your Human Design chart. When these gates are activated, they influence your energy, much like how astrological transits impact your zodiac sign.

The sun moved into Gate 6, where it will stay until midday Friday, September 20 (CDT). 

In traditional Human Design, this is the Gate of Friction, also known as the Gate of Discernment. Gate 6 represents emotional energy around relationships, both intimate and social, encouraging us to be more thoughtful about who we connect with and how.

I recently took the week off before school started to spend with my daughter, we call it "Best Week with Mom (Ever)." 

Towards the end of the week, she said "you've hardly spent time with me." I took a pause because I had been with her more that week than any other week since Spring Break. 

I was visiting with a client the other day, and something she said really struck me. She mentioned coming from a family where her dad had done well in his career, and with that came certain expectations—maintaining appearances, presenting a specific image.

My Reiki master says, "'Shoulds' cause sore shoulders. Don't should on yourself."

Have you ever found yourself knee-deep in a "should" storm? 

What's a "should" storm? It's a mind game of all of the spiraling thoughts of the things you think you "should" have done differently. 

I certainly did last week.

Over the last month, we’ve had the pleasure of hosting a mallard duck’s nest in the planter attached to the front of our house.

There are experiences that are memorable and those that are truly transformative. This weekend was one such transformative experience. I had the honor of officiating my daughter's birthmother's wedding.

This is a story of why not hitting my goal is a celebration.

So why am I celebrating?

We’re taught that we need to be good students and an A is expected. For the overachievers among us, failing can feel unacceptable. So we only learn that perfection is preferred and failing or making mistakes is bad.

Exactly a year from when I burned out, I started my coaching training. I started my journey excited and as we did the personal work, I dug in deep. Confronting my limiting beliefs, working to detach from identities, particularly those I strongly associated with, such as being a "good mother." This journey uncovered my fears of being an inadequate mother due to my path to parenthood being through adoption.

Seven years back, I struggled to finish tasks without outside accountability. I often joined online challenges but would only last two or three days before feeling disappointed in myself for not following through on my commitment. However, everything changed when I came across a Facebook ad for the Dreambook and Planner from the Dragontree Apothecary. There was an instant connection that drew me in.